I understand what you guys are saying and I feel that many of you are right in the way that you feel and the things that you say. Just to let you know he works out everyday too and most of the time we work out together. He thinks I spend too much time in the gym because I do cardio and abs which are things that (lucky him) he does not have to work hard for (mesomorph). But, unfortunately, to substain and improve my physic these are exercises that I must do. I have reached a plateau in my strenght and physic, which was why I wanted the trainer. His reply was that I needed to stop candy assin' around and figure it out myself and that they had nothing to teach me. I was devistated to find out that he had this philosophy, becuase I feel that you can learn a lot from every person you meet, whether it is bodybuilding, sewing, science, etc. His closed mindedness makes me very sad. But getting a divorce, even the thought of it is very difficult for me. Although I am starting to feel that it may be the only opption for me and my happiness (FYI, no kids).