hey tigerlily..
i am really sorry to hear of him acting that way..
normally when it comes to married couples i usually encourage them to work it out.. but some of these issues cannot get worked out.. my opinion.. the aas's are not even an important issue in this.. first off.. the part about having a female trainer only... insecure.. jealous... more over CONTROLING>>>> in my book that is the biggest mistake a man can make.. unless you truely want to be controled... he should have trust in you and your relationship.. a trainer is there to show you and help you towards your goals.. not have you do your squats over him..
i had a ex.. that did not like me working out... always complained about it.. and that "your not gonna look like a female.. " .. lets just say he is an ex for a reason now... so to try to show him .. i took him with me to the gym.. eeeeeee.. bad move.. he stared and watched.. with an evil intent on his face the whole time.. the owner of the gym(a friend of mine) told me to never bring him back there again... due to his attitude and his attitude towards me while there..... you could see it in his eyes.. "mine mine mine..."
you are trying to better yourself...and it is for you... he should be supportive in what you are doing.. if you where going to be causing harm or physical damage to yourself that would be different.. when someone tries to hold you back from self improvement .. (be it physical, emotional, educational, or mentally) it is because of there own insecurities and lack of self worth.. as long as they keep you at a lower level... you are under them.. and they will try to maintain that over you...
you need to see what is best for you.. and your future.. is he holding you back from developing.. in your own way.... any one that truely loved you would encourage you to self improvement.....
regrets.... that is another side effect of this type of issue... will you regret not reaching this goal you have set for yourself... does the term resentment come to mind...it is a nasty emotion ... almost as bad as jealousy... jealousy may fade.. resentment... well..sometimes it does...
sit back and think.. and dwell... granted i do not believe in divorce , yet i do understand that there are times when 2 people never should have gotten married also...
if he is really looking out for your own good.. that would be one thing... but it does not appear that way by what you describe..
sasha..
good luck.... oh if you like.. i will talk to him..
.. i have not become a man... not one bit... .. and if he gets out of line.. i can smack him into shape for you <!--emo&
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